Let's play: Kiss me where I want it

On my recent trip I saw a billboard off the freeway advertising an adult store. So I pulled over with the idea that I should bring at least one surprise home to my sweetie.

Mostly, what we needed was more edible lube. I'm a big fan of edible lube. I don't use it every time, but it sure can be fun - especially if it tingles as well as tastes good.

What I found was edible body paint. This gave me an idea. Why not use the paint to learn something more about each other? I used the idea last night and let me tell you - it was worth it.

Here's how I set the game up. Since I happened to be having my period, I told Chad this night would be all about him. First, I asked him to use the paints to show me where he liked to be kissed - anywhere but his cock. That threw him for a bit.

"You're not going to kiss my cock?" he asked.

"Not yet," I said.

With that he thought about it for a while and applied some of the body paint to his lips. The gel tasted surprisingly good - like melted candy. We shared the taste of it as we kissed.

Next, he directed me to his neck. His earlobes. Back to his lips. His nipples. The sensitive skin on his sides, near his waist.

Those are all places I have kissed him before, for sure. But because he isn't usually very vocal about what he enjoys I wasn't positive if he truly cared about being kissed in some of those secondary erotic zones.

In fact, that's part of the reason I asked him to start with "everything but" the mighty cock. I was slightly worried that if he had the reins, he might just squirt the body paint all over his cock and tell me to go to town - no detours.

As it turns out, my assumption was wrong - as is the case with many assumptions. Once he'd run out of secondary erotic zones, I moved on to phase II of the game.

"Now, pretend we are just starting to have sex," I said. "Use the body paint to show me where to kiss you, starting with the first thing you want me to kiss. If you want me to drive straight for your cock, that's OK. If you want me to kiss you other places first, let me know."

He put more edible body paint on his lips. I had fun thoroughly kissing and licking him - making sure every trace was removed. Then he led me, with a trail of paint, slowly back through the places I'd kissed before. His lips led to his neck, his neck led to his earlobes. His earlobes led to his nipples and back to his lips. His lips led to his waist.

For me, the most gratifying thing was hearing him moan softly as I licked and nibbled my way over his body. Maybe I was assuming that because he was a man, he'd want me to go straight to his money zone - skip the small change. Maybe I was just getting lazy and complacent. But I know I don't always spend as much time kissing him all over as I did when he was directing me where to kiss. Now that I know he enjoys it more than I assumed, I'm going to step it back up again.

Of course, there was a point where he wanted me to cash in. I waited expectantly while he brushed some of the body paint on his cock. Then I licked and sucked on every inch of his shaft to remove it.

After a while I reminded him that he was still in control. If he wanted me to lick and kiss anywhere else he would have to show me. So he painted some of the gel on his balls. I used one hand to grip his shaft, pumping slowly, while I licked the boys clean.

After all this kissing and licking, both of us were ready to get down to business. The body paints were set aside for a serious blowjob. Over and over I built him up, almost to the point of climax but not quite, before he stopped me. Finally, he came in my mouth.

Afterward, I told him I was a little surprised at how much I learned about him - even after four years of having sex.

"I think that's the key," I said. "You always have to be growing and changing, learning more about your partner and yourself. Otherwise, if you think you know all there is to know, that's probably where things get stale and lose excitement."

It wasn't a lesson I was expecting to learn but it makes sense. I love that my lover and I are so comfortable with each other that we can nearly read each other's minds in bed. But I never want to get to the point where I think I know it all. People's interests do change over time - there are things that we have done sexually recently that I would never had even though of in my early years of having sex.

Now I can't wait for my turn. When I'm done with my period I plan to play the same game again. Except this time, I will have control of the body paint.

* Editor's note: This product does contain sugar. So be careful where you apply it. Putting things that contain sugar on your pussy could result in an infection. My only complaint about this particular brand of body paint is that it is difficult to squeeze out of the bottles and application isn't easily controlled. When this batch runs out I plan to try another brand.