Sex begets sex - again

During my week away from home I missed my husband terribly. It just seems strange to be away from him like that. Even though we talked on the phone every day - sometimes more than once - I just felt weirdly disconnected from him.

I kept wanting to say, I feel so far away from you. But then, that was stupid, because of course I was so far away from him.

While spending three days with my mom and grandmother, I slept in the same room I lived in my freshman year of college. The company and the place made me feel like a child again - certainly not like The Dirty Princess.

When I left I imagined I would be very horny with a sex-free week. I brought along my pink vibrator, perfect for traveling. It sat unused in my suitcase. I imagined I would have at least one steamy phone-sex session with Chad. It never came up.

I didn't even get hungry for sex once I got home. Well, not until after I "ate", so to speak.

I arrived home around supper time and husband and I decided to go out to eat. I was too tired to even think of cooking something. In fact, I was so tired I even briefly entertained the thought that perhaps we should just wait to have "welcome home" sex tomorrow. "Chad will understand," I reasoned to myself.

He had his own ideas, however. When we got back from eating, I wandered distractedly through the kitchen. Noticing my herb pots on the windowsill, I began watering them. With one pot to go, I felt Chad grab my arm.

Knowing what was happening, I began to laugh. I quickly thrust the watering can back onto the counter top as he walked me back to the bedroom. I never got the chance to make my little speech about being too tired for sex because I was brought forcibly into the bedroom and pushed onto the bed.

I'm so glad my husband didn't allow me to be lazy. Post orgasms, laying panting on the bed, I discovered that I didn't really want to wait another day for sex. Plus, even though we have been married three years and together more than four, it's always such a huge compliment when he makes it so crystal clear that he wants me. Intellectually I know he desires me sexually, but it's a message I never get tired of hearing.

After our explosive homecoming sex, I discovered something. All of a sudden, I wanted sex again. I got incredibly horny in the next two afternoons and got my rocks off solo because he was at work. We also made time for some steamy sex last night. I'm back to normal and I'm loving it.

Of course, there were some outside factors in my lack of sex drive while at my grandmother's house. I was working hard every day and went to bed very tired. I also regressed and didn't feel sexy.

But the biggest reason I think my horny dial got turned down a notch was that I hadn't had sex for a while. If I am having great sex, I want more of it. Therefore, it stands to reason that if I am not having sex, it's easier to get lazy about it.

I think about the men and women out there that have allowed themselves to get complacent in their relationships. The grind of jobs, the kids, paying bills and other details of daily life get heavy and sex gets put on the back burner. He or she thinks, I'm tired, I have a big day tomorrow, my partner will understand. And the next thing you know, days or weeks, or even months and years have slipped by unnoticed and uncelebrated.

How many of those people could recapture a passionate sex life just by taking the time and effort to make sex a priority? One time leads to two times and three times and maybe the momentum can get picked back up.

I know there are many complicating factors. I know it takes more than one person a good sex life to make. But why not try? Have sex with your partner tonight. See if it doesn't make you hungrier.