It's not ALL about the sex

Sometimes, when we were first dating, Chad would tease me that all I wanted him for was his body. Even though it was a joke, it was true that we did put a lot of focus on the sexual aspect of our relationship in the beginning. Heck, we still put a lot of focus in that.

However, I'll repeat now what I have said before. I love him for more than his penis.

Unfortunately, in the last week his penis and I have had no face time. Or pussy time. No any time.

I've alluded to it before but there is this new career opportunity that came to me a while ago. I've started a new job as the editor of a small weekly newspaper. With a complete redesign of the paper it's taking a lot of my time and attention right now. Monday was technically my first day, although I'd been preparing for it for a while now.

So now I'm working full time. Not only that, but in these beginning weeks it's more than full time. I didn't get home until 9 p.m. or later for the first three days of the week.

Chad knows I'm exhausted right now. When I come home from work he spends some time listening to me talk about my day and then we usually veg in front of the TV for a while.

Then I go to bed. To sleep. There just isn't time or energy for sex right now. This job is draining a lot out of me - but the good news is it should get better after a while.

It's a given that we're going to make up for lost time at the earliest possible moment. There will be plenty of dirty filthy licking, sucking and fucking.

But for now I appreciate the things my husband is doing for me that are NOT about the sex. I appreciate that he is willing to listen to me. I appreciate that he ordered a pizza and didn't eat even one bite until I got home at after 9 p.m. last night. I appreciate that he's been rubbing my back and my neck and comforting me when I cry because I'm feeling overwhelmed.

I firmly believe that if couples put more focus and attention into the physical side of their relationship it would save them a lot of headache and heartache. But having a connection isn't all about sex. Sometimes it's just about being there.

Thanks for being there for me sweetie.