'Inadequate friction'

After writing my last post I received a comment from Willie. Here is what he said:

On the idea that "you can never be too wet", what do you do when your girlfriend really is too wet, resulting in inadequate friction? (and no, it's not because I'm small - I believe I'm above average).

Dear Willie,

Too wet, eh? I'm afraid I have never experienced that. I don't gush but I have been dripping wet, leaving a butt-sized wet spot. However, I have not had this problem so I'm not sure I understand what you mean. That doesn't mean your issue isn't valid - just that I haven't encountered it before.

Since you mention your size I am assuming you mean too wet during penetration. Am I right? In that case I would guess that it's not about size or wetness, but angle or direct vs indirect stimulation. First, does she experience plenty of pleasure and/or orgasms prior to or even after fucking? Secondly, have you tried different positions to hit her spot better?

It's not all about the penis boys. If she is having trouble getting off when you fuck her, try not to take it badly. Just focus on giving her pleasure any way you can and she will appreciate it - I guarantee it.

Willey, I don't mean to be condescending or offensive at all. There may be something that I am just not getting here.

If anyone else out there can help us out, please do so. Is there such a thing as too wet? Do you have some suggestions for Willie? If so, please chime in.

Lube vs foreplay

First off, I just want to thank my wonderful husband for posting for me, twice no less. He is such an amazing, supportive man. He knows I have been really wanting to keep up with my blog better and he took matters into his own hands.

Now on to my first post in a while. Here's a question I recently received by email.

By chance I have discovered your blog and like it a lot. Now my question: I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years but we have started making love only about a year ago as I am religious and it took me a while to get used to the idea. Also, I needed to know he was not after sex only :-), of course. Well, the first time it went reasonably well although it took quite long for him to get inside me as I was very tight (but he just waited until I was comfortable). We thought it would be better next time, and it was. The only problem that has remained is that he always has a problem to get inside me for the first time, even when I am wet. Do you think a lube would make things easier, I mean maybe make my entrance more flexible? ... am not sure I am describing it well :-)

I guess my answer is two fold. First off, yes, more lube is never a bad thing. Sometimes people, including me in the past, think that lube is for someone older having trouble getting wet enough but it is more than that. You can never be too wet and lube is a great addition to sex.

My second answer is a little more complicated. I suspect this isn't just about you being wet enough. All I can tell you is what I experience - it may not be the same for everyone.

When I first started having sex I didn't give my body enough time to get ready, so to speak. My mind got turned on faster than my body. What my husband and I discovered is that I need plenty of stimulation, with his fingers and/or his tongue before I am loosened up enough for him to enter me.

What my husband knew, and I did not, was that it was best if I had an orgasm or orgasms before he even entered me. That way, by the time he enters me I am very primed, so to speak, and the orgasms pour out of me. Besides, why rush things? The more time we spend, the more fun we both have.

The one qualification I will give this is that not all women are multi-orgasmic like I am. While I have yet to find my orgasmic limit – only exhaustion has stopped me – some women build up to a single, very strong orgasm before calling it a night. Neither way is better than the other, they are just different.

In the beginning it was especially important that I was patient. It took my body six months to get used to intercourse and to start having orgasms from penetration consistently and easily.

However, don't think that patience is only necessary in the beginning. Even now, after more than four years of intercourse, if my husband and I were to skip the foreplay and go straight to sex I would be very tight to begin with. In fact, if he starts too aggressively, I might even feel some discomfort or irritation.

I can't claim that the following explanation is scientific by any means, but this is the way I look at it. While my brain doesn't take long to switch to “on” my body catches on more slowly. The first sign that my body is getting ready for sex is that I begin feeling wet between my legs. Then, my vaginal opening begins to slowly relax in preparation for penetration. Then, my cervix begins to move back out of the way. If I don't give my body long enough my vaginal opening is tight and my husband's penis slams against my cervix, sometimes painfully.

So, in answer to your question, yes, more lube cannot hurt. But if you and your partner aren't spending enough time on foreplay all the lube in the world won't solve the problem.

My advice to you would be to relax, take your time and ask him to work on your pleasure before he even enters you. Also, it may just take your body time to adjust to having sex.

On The Inside

Holly felt so good as she became wetter and wetter. My fingers sliding back and forth over her clit and inside of her. Her moaning becoming louder, her hot pussy becoming wetter and wetter. Just waiting for me to slide my hard cock inside. She came and was very ready to be fucked.

She told me to fuck her, asked me what position I wanted her in to be fucked. I told her to lay on her back. I kneeled between her legs and slid my hard cock inside. It felt so good. The feeling as I slid in further and further inside of her. I began to fuck her. Using the springs in our mattress to my advantage, I placed my hands on the back of her legs and pushed her down into the mattress. With each push my cock was sliding in and out of her. She felt so fucking good. It was as if it was meant to be. Nothing in the world could have distracted me from her. Nothing.

After a little bit I told her to get on her hands and knees and made her go to the edge of the bed. I was standing when I slide my hard cock inside of her from behind. Oh fuck she feels really good. I begin to fuck her from behind. Her wet hot juicy pussy engulfing my hard cock as I thrust in and out of her. Fuck that feels good. I continue to fuck her for a while, then I tell her to get on her back again.

I kneel between her legs once again. This time it is for the final explosion. I would find out the explosion would not only be from myself. I begin to fuck her again. Once again her wet hot juicy pussy engulfing my cock. I look down and see myself sliding in and out of her. It is so very hot and sexy and turns me on even more. I begin to fuck her faster and faster. I can tell by her reaction that she is very close to cumming. I continue to fuck her, and I start to feel myself not being able to hold back. I can feel that awesome feeling as I am about to shoot my load inside of her. I also start to see and feel Holly. She is at the point where she is going to cum also. I continue to slide in and out of her.

All at once without any notice she begins to cum. I can tell by the look on her face, the sounds she is making and the way her body is reacting. I react the same way. I feel the sensation and no longer being able to hold back, I cum inside of her. The feeling is amazing. We then lay next to each other enjoying the pleasure we just experienced. That was to long in the waiting and just what we needed.