'The best sex lasts minutes or even seconds'

So, I have another reader question:

I was listening to my friends Hristiyans podcasts on foreplay and he said that most woman do not like actual intercourse to last more than 15 minutes (of course a generalization) and that the best sex lasts minutes or even seconds.

Basically, he was saying if your foreplay is good intercourse won't last long.

I remember you saying you liked to orgasm before you were penetrated, do many women feel this way?

Do many women want intercourse to last a long time?

Are womans pussies usually sore after sex or is it only if the guy is huge and the woman wasn't dripping wet when he penetrated her?

Well, you already said it but I have to repeat it. I think saying that most women do not like intercourse to last more that 15 minutes is definitely a generalization. I can only say what I like and what I have heard from other women.

I do think, however, that your friend is on the right track. I'd alter it a bit to say: If foreplay is good, intercourse doesn't have to last as long.

I do like to orgasm before I am penetrated, yes. And I think there are lots of other women out there that like it too. Beyond that, I think there are lots of women who could benefit from it.

A woman typically needs more time to “warm up” for sex. That's where foreplay comes in. When I orgasm before penetration, it prepares me for intercourse and makes succeeding orgasms easier to achieve and stronger.

So here's what your friend is talking about: If I've just had some amazing foreplay that includes multiple orgasms I don't need extended fucking to cum some more. I'm all primed so successive orgasms pour out of me pretty quickly. It typically doesn't take very long for me to have two or three more orgasms during intercourse.

Personally, that's the way I like it. Plenty of foreplay. Plenty of orgasms before penetration. Finally, hard and fast fucking to finish it off. I'd say even 15 minutes is pretty long. My husband and I spend a lot of time in bed, but only a few minutes of it is fucking.

That's not to say it should be that way every time or that every woman likes it that way. While I have multiple orgasms, some women say they have one strong orgasm after which they are done for the night.

As for your final question about soreness, there is no reason for a woman to be sore after sex. I have, on very few occasions, felt sore after sex. Once in a while, after a quickie, I've felt a little sore. And, after a particularly long session of pussy abuse, I might feel somewhat sore. But that's a good kind of sore.

For the most part, if she feels sore, something isn't being done right. She wasn't given enough time before penetration, for example. Or, as you put it, “the woman wasn't dripping wet when he penetrated her”.

Now I want to turn it over to other people. What are your thoughts on this?

Do you (or your partner) like to orgasm before penetration? Do you think intercourse needs to last a long time? What about sore pussy?

Go.